How Gratitude Boosts Confidence

Life is full of adversity and challenges making it difficult to maintain confidence.  However, with consistent practice, confidence is a skill that you can own regardless of circumstance or what is being thrown at you.

There are many ways to work at building and maintaining your confidence as referenced in “The Confident Athlete".  However, the one I want to discuss today is thankfulness.

While we all are aware of how gratitude makes us happier, many do not realize how it benefits our confidence.   A 2014 study reported in the Journal of Applied Sports Psychology, discovered that athletes who openly expressed more gratitude toward their coaches were more confident than those who weren’t as openly thankful.  In addition, when you take the time to list what you are thankful about, you naturally feel better about yourself, you are more positive, and you are better equipped to handle adversity.  All of these contribute to confidence building.

Start making this a habit.  Today be thankful for everything that happens to you.  Take some time wherever you are and whatever you’re doing, to come up with a gratitude list. Keep this list in view (on the refrigerator, mirror, etc.) where it can serve as a visual reminder.  There is so much to be thankful for, we just have to choose to see it. Often, we are so focused on what isn’t happening that we lose sight of the good.

If you want to experience lasting confidence in your life, you need to change your focus.  Specifically, you need to change your thoughts from focusing on what you don’t have, to want you do have.  From what isn’t going well, to what is going well.  Whatever you focus on is what you move toward!

Tami Matheny is the owner of Refuse2Lose Coaching and a founding partner at Success for Teams  

Failing Your Way to Success

In case you missed it, Nick Foles (Philadelphia Eagles QB and Super Bowl LII MVP) gave some insight into the role failure has played in his success during the post game interview. At Success for Teams we have great appreciation for the role failure plays in an individual's ultimate success. Foles words are an invitation, almost, for us to embrace the humbling reality of NOT achieving what we initially set out to accomplish because of what that failure does to bring us closer to greatness.

Studies have consistently shown that as human beings our greatest fears are failure, death, and public speaking.

Recently I came across a quote by Marie Curie that read, “Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood.”

The Mount Ida design college in Massachusetts featured an exhibition in 2015 called Permission to Fail. "The curator asked a group of 50 prestigious designers and illustrators to send in their mess-ups, rough drafts and preliminary sketches so that they could be put on display.” The point is to teach students that the process is messy and that the "great ones" are repeatedly imperfect before creating a masterpiece.

If we can understand the valuable role that failure plays in our success, could we then embrace it instead of fear it? Can establishing a radically different relationship with our own failure truly open up a new world of success for ourselves and our student-athletes?

We think it can.

How do you build failure into your practice plan? As strange as it sounds, we wish you much failure in the weeks ahead and look forward to sharing in your inevitable success.